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Episode 78 Life’s Hurdles


A friend emailed me this week with some of the struggles that he has been going through.  As I was helping him; I found that I was also helping myself.  Join us today as we talk about overcoming life’s hurdles. The answer may not be as hard as you think.

A Friend’s Struggles

One of the members of Surging Forward, I will call him “Freddy”, emailed me saying that  every time he tries to get ahead something always happens. He is having issues with his truck and then his job sends him to a job site further from his home. He said that it is a constant struggle and that he is almost at the point of burnout.

My Struggles

The email came at a time when I also was going through a lot of issues myself.  I was working too many hours, and having computer issues with endless hours of troubleshooting as to why a Windows update had caused my computer to be in an endless loop.  Though I did not really know how I could help Freddy as I was feeling the same but for very different reasons; I set up a phone call.  Freddy shared that things were going well and then all of a sudden everything hit at one time. He asked, how do I get over this hurdle?

As I spoke with Freddy,  I realized that we all have hurdles of one type or another.  They seem to sabotage the success that we were experiencing.  It seems like we run into a brick wall and you just want to quit.  And it seems, that there is no way for you to win or achieve your goal that earlier seemed within reach.

I reminded Freddy that life happens.  There are many things that happen that we have no control over. For example: those of us that work in the trades, have no control of the job location or of how far from home that the work may take us. Sometimes we even need to travel to another state. We also have no control over the weather so we often work in extreme cold or heat. Many times we are working so many hours that we don’t have time to do the maintenance on our vehicles so they break down leaving us stranded. And they always seem to breakdown in the middle of nowhere or like the computer issues that I am experiencing at a very busy time.

Why do these things happen?

What curse is on me, that want to stop me from succeeding?

We All Go Through Struggles

After listening to Freddy and thinking of all the things going on with me at the same time, I realized that we all go through tough times and many times it just small things adding up together that make the brick wall.  There is nothing hindering us or trying to stop us; it is just simply “life”. We just have to step back from the issue for a moment and then look at it again and find a solution. Just because you cannot get over that hurdle/wall at this moment does not mean that you cannot find a solution and push over it later. It is so easy to get into the poor little old me attitude, but think about those that depend on you or believe in you. At the times when we want to give up we really need to say I will “Keep Surging Forward” and I will find a solution to the issue at hand. This is what makes you stronger and able to handle the issues of tomorrow.  

Freddy got back with me a couple of days later and said that he solved the issue with his truck by carpooling with a friend.  And the funny thing is that during their car rides, they are discussing electrical code and this is helping Freddy learn the code so he can pass his test for his electrical license. Funny how this all work out!

What are your hurdles in life?  We all have them.

Take a step back and then find a solution. Life is going to happen.  We cannot solve everything, but we can pursue and solve the ones we can and this will help us to Keep Surging Forward.

 

Until next week keep Surging Forward.

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Myths of Leadership Episode 77


Join us today as we discuss 5 leadership myths that just might be holding you back from Surging Forward.

Myth Number One – Leaders Are Born, Not Made.  

You make think that in order to be a leader you have to have a lot of money, or have attended all the right schools, but all of this is a myth.  Look at Abraham Lincoln.  His father worked odd jobs and then leased some farm land.  Most of Abraham Lincoln’s education was largely self-taught, but yet he became the Sixteenth President of the United States.

How about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.?  He grew up in a sad time of segregation, but he did not let that stop him.  He went on to become the most visible spokesman and leader of the Civil Rights Movement.

The truth is very few leaders are born leaders.  Most people learn leadership by trying and failing, but then not giving up.  They re-evaluate why they failed and make up their minds to do things differently next time.

Myth Number Two – Leadership is a Rare Skill.

Nothing can be farther from the truth.  If you watch a group of children playing you will quickly see one of them start stepping forward and telling the others what to do.  When the children get bored with this game, another child will start guiding the group.  Even if there are only two children playing you will see throwing out ideas like let’s do this, this way or I want to do this.  Again leadership is learned through trial and error.

Myth Number Three – Leaders are Gifted and Outgoing.

This is also untrue because many leaders are introverts, Introverts have a knack for abstract thinking as introverts only like to deal in what they know and tend to focus on the long term. They do not really on what others think of them and they tend to be more quiet and reserved this is why many tend to think of them as being withdrawn but this also means they are able to figure out how things workbut still have been very influential.  Look at Warren Buffett and Mark Zuckerberg.

Myth Number Four – Leaders Lead by Brute Force.

This is the definition of a bad leader.  This is a bully.  A good leader encourages and counsels.  They earn respect of those they lead.  A good leader is will to share their knowledge.  They are will to lead by example.  When a job needs to be done a good leader is willing to get their hands dirty, not just ordering others to do it.  Good leaders challenge people to transform their lives.

Myth Number Five – Leaders are Only Found at the Top of a Company.

Again this is far from the truth because we are all leaders.  We are leaders in our homes, families, at work and around the neighborhood.  If you are a parent you are a leader.  Sometime you do not even realize that people are watching you and following your example.

Sometimes in learning to lead we make mistakes.  We just need to admit our mistake and try again.  Little by little it gets easier.  And we need to realize that at times we need to turn to others for advice and counsel.  Leadership is not about power, but about servant hood.    Not to preach, but look at the leadership example of Jesus Christ.  A very humble leader and yet whether you believe or don’t look at the affect he has had throughout history.  

Leadership is about encouraging others to Surge higher than they ever thought possible.

Until next week keep Surging Forward.

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Your Time is Your Money in Episode 76


We all know that there are 24 hours in a day.  We sleep for 6-8 of these hours so that only leaves 16-18 hours to get something accomplished.  With these remaining hours we need to find a balance.  How we divide up our time with these remaining hours plays a huge role in our success.  

We can not spend all of our time sitting on the couch playing video games or watching football or Game of Thrones though it is important to have some down time to just relax.

We can not just spend 16 hours working then our families suffer because we are never at home.  We need to find a balance; we need to establish priorities.

It is very easy to justify why we are spending so much time in one area:

I am working long hours for my family; mean while you have missed your son’s Little League Game or

I deserve to sit on the couch and do nothing because I work hard all day; mean while your marriage is going down the drain because your significant other feels neglected.

It is all about priorities and balance.

Ask yourself what are your priorities in life?

When you evaluate your priorities you should see if the way you are using your time is making money or causing you to lose it.

Maybe you will need to establish new priorities: such as God, family, work, recreation, school etc.. Once you have established your priorities; then determine how many hours you need to divide up amongst these priorities.

If you work an 8 hour job, there goes 8 hours plus your travel time, five days a week.

How much time do you have left for your other priorities?

Sometimes 2 priorities can be combined – you can have family time while going out to a movie or taking a hike.  This combines family and recreation.

But most times you need to commit your time, 100% to the priority you established.

When you are at work; your boss deserves your 100% commitment.  That means arriving on time, watching the length of your breaks… It does not mean spending time on your cell phone or going out for a long lunch when you should be working.  My friend bosses notice who is working and who is a slacker and when it comes time for promotions guess who is going to get the promotion.

Another way to get noticed on a job is to increase your knowledge.  Spend some of your balanced priority time learning.  Listen to Podcasts, read a good book, go on line and take some courses. (Surging Forward. Com) There is so much out there today.  

By using your time in a wise and balanced way you can become successful at work, at home, and around the neighborhood.  You will also find that you are not as stressed out so your health will improve which will increase your energy level which will then improve your work and family life.  It is just a big circle of success starting with you realizing that Your Time is Your Money and as you learn this it will keep you Surging Forward.

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Relationships Episode75


How you handle your relationships can either take you to the next level or bring you down.

Lately it seems that relationships are keeping people down.  They either have had a bad relationship or they think have a good relationship, yet they have no one to talk to.  They feel alone and that nobody cares.  Just because you have likes on your Facebook Page does not mean that you have true relationships.  People walk around acting as if life is good and that they do not have a care in the world, but all of us go through struggles and have difficult times.  All of us struggle with self–esteem issues wondering does this person like me, is my nose too big, or are my eyes weird or whatever.  These are real issues that all of us struggle with. 

Some people may claim that they want to help you out, but when someone comes forward especially over the internet people come out of no where bashing and joking and giving the person a hard time.  Mob mentality and cyber bullying begins.  Whatever happened to the old saying “if you have nothing nice to say then don’t say anything at all.”  What does this saying mean?  It means if you are not uplifting someone; if you are not saying something decent then why are you bothering to say something.  There is no reason to tear others down.  We are not talking about good natured kidding because we all have to be able to laugh at ourselves sometimes, but we are talking about people that viciously attack others on Social Media.  These people overly exaggerate or say things that are completely untrue.  And most times they don’t even know the person that they are saying the hurtful things about.  Are these healthy relationships?  Absolutely not and when you respond to these people you are egging it on even more.  It is sad but people will share a negative message before they will share a positive one. 

This Surging Forward Podcast was started to help you to create a positive you in a negative world.  We can only make choices for ourselves.  Many good people get sucked into the negative.  They attack someone else so that they can avoid getting attacked themselves.  We feel so insecure in our own lives that when we see someone else going through a struggle we jump in on that band wagon that way no one is bothering us.  But this just sends us down a spiraling rabbit hole and before long we find ourselves on the other end of the spectrum and all those so called friends are gone.

What if more people started to encourage more people? Often this does not happen because people do not have healthy relationships.  They feel alone and they don’t want to take a step out, because they are afraid that they will be picked on if they are wrong.  No one knows everything about everything.  And don’t feel like you have to know everything.  That is what relationships are about; people helping people.  Have you ever been in a relationship with people that can influence you?  They bring you up when you are down.  They stand by your side when you make a mistake.  Relationships are only good if they help you through the rough times.  Having a positive relationship is what gets you through those difficult times.  My pastor made a statement that who you follow defines who you are and who you are defines who you will follow.

Even when it comes to religion it is all about a relationship.  You may know people that do a lot of good things and try to be a good person, but if you don’t have a relationship and all you have is “religion” then who is going to stand in your court to help you when times get tough.  It is all about a relationship. 

Life does get tough, but you can keep Surging Forward by continuing to take life one step at a time to create a positive you in a negative world.  Only you can make choices for you.

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Dealing with Authority/Inspectors Episode 74


Dealing with authority or inspectors is not something that we always like to do.  When we are dealing with someone in authority we can feel intimidated or feel like they are out to get us. When dealing with those in authority we need to show them respect.  You do not have to like or even respect that person, but you still need to know how to deal with that inspector or boss.  You may disagree with something that they are requiring you to fix, but you still have to abide by their authority in most cases.

How do we deal with those in authority that we do not like?           Sometimes those in authority cost you time, money, or they may have embarrassed you by calling you out in public about something you did, or you just do not like them.  How do you deal with this type of person?            

The first thing we all need to remember is that everyone has a boss.  We all have someone we need to report to; to be accountable to.  Some may say that they work on their own so they do not have a boss; but this is not true for their client or customer is their boss.  The customer may decide not to pay because they were not satisfied with the job.  Bottom line is that none of us like to be corrected or called out and told that we did something wrong.  We do not like to be embarrassed or talked down to.  There are good bosses and bad bosses.  There are good inspectors and bad inspectors.  How you react to each is a choice that you make.  Never let a bad inspector or leader force you to make a bad decision.  Once you make that bad decision that bad leader or inspector has control over you and your life.

You do not have to like the person that is in authority over you, but you do have to respect their position.  You do not always have to respect the person, because a person needs to earn that respect.  If you want to be a better person or leader realize that you can learn more from a bad leader or inspector in regards to how you should deal with authority then you can from a good leader.

I have heard people say “I have no respect for that inspector or leader.  Every time I have to deal with him my whole day is messed up.”   In this case you are allowing someone that you are forced to interact with influence your actions and ruin your day.

The person in authority deserves you to respect their position.  They are in that position to give you direction, to provide you with information, or simply to pass or fail your installation.  They are responsible for keeping you and others safe on the job, or teaching you how to perform a task.  You need to respect their position, but not necessarily the person.  They need to earn that respect.

When I say respect the position; it simply means to allow that person, which may not have a very good way of dealing with people, a little more room to save face.  Why should I give a person I do not like room to save face?  All of us have a need to feel important this was discussed on Episode 63.

How do you deal with these people who are giving you a hard time?

The first thing you need to do is to diffuse the situation.  Do not make something bigger out of it than it really was.  Be a listener more than a reactor.

Ask yourself:

            Is this person asking you to work in unsafe conditions?

            Is this person asking you to do something morally wrong?

            Is this person asking you to do something that might hurt you or your family?

            Is this person asking you to do something that might ruin your reputation?

If the answer is “no”, then do not take the stress from that person in authority.  Maybe he is caring something bad in his life.  Do not let him put that heavy load on you.  Just break down and do what needs to be done to satisfy the situation and move on.  Dealing with people can be tough because everyone has a different opinion on everything. But it is not up to us to force someone to make a choice to do something they do not want to do.

What if the answer is “yes” to the questions above, then how do you diffuse the situation?

One of the ways to diffuse the situation is to agree to disagree.  If you are told to do something that is unsafe, do not lose your cool, but back up your reason for your position with facts.  An inspector can not make you do something just based on their opinion of whether they like you or not.  They have a set of guidelines that they need to follow also. 

If an issue can not be solved this way, you can take the issue to someone above and explain your position, again with facts.  Remember, everyone has a boss.  It is not worth the time or headache of losing your cool over this one incident.  We all make our own choices and sometimes due to someone else’s actions we allow somebody else to make the choice for us by losing our cool.  If somebody else can cause you to feel bad and get you angry then believe it or not they are actually in control of you.  But you are the one who is going to pay the consequences for losing control.  If you get angry with an inspector, your job is not going to get passed.  If you get angry at your boss, then you could get fired. 

There are ways to handle the situation without losing control.  You can agree to disagree.  Give the facts of why you think that this is against code, why you think it is unsafe or why you feel uncomfortable telling a lie.  You may have to take the situation to HR, but there are better ways of dealing and not losing control. 

A confrontation today may affect a promotion that you were going to get tomorrow.  You can only make choices based on what you do.  Do not let other people force you into a bad situation.  When people are in a bad mood they love to suck as many people as they can down that rabbit hole.  This gives them the fuel for their fire as they live in their negative world.  There are people out there that look happy, but they are not or that look like they have it all together and they really do not.  Our slogan here at Surging Forward is to Create a Positive You in a Negative World.  We are here to help one person at a time. 

Only you can make a choice about your life.  It does not mean that you are always happy, because sometimes life just does not go right, but you can help create a positive situation just by diffusing a negative situation.  Keep Surging Forward!

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Taking a Risk Episode 73


Many people spend time making goals while many people just spend time doing nothing. They feel taking a chance is to Risky. What if doing nothing at all was actually what had the most risk? Making a choice to be better off is not really taking a risk, it is being ready for the unknown things in life that will happen. It is all about choice. Join me today as I talk about making a choice to take a risk.

 

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What is your Outlook? Episode 72

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What is you outlook on your job, life, or those around you? Join me as I continue to discuss some of the biggest Hurdles that you feel keep you from succeeding in the Trades or on your job. How to you see things around you and how do you feel about yourself. What is the biggest thing that is needed to succeed? Each day, each week, each month and even each year provides you with an opportunity to make a choice. Decide today what you will do to Keep Surging Forward. As usual I look forward to your comments. I would also be very honored if you would share this with someone that would like to move forward in their career.

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Gaining Knowledge Episode 71


In this Episode I was actually on the Road and was able to answer a question that I posted on Facebook. I simply asked what are some of the biggest Hurdles that you feel keep you from succeeding in the Trades or on your job. There was a Large response over many of the groups that I am in. All of which I will address in future episodes. The one that seemed to be the biggest hurdle was how to gain more knowledge so you can grow and become successful.   So this episode which is my first episode recorded while on the road will show you the many ways where you can Gain the knowledge needed to Keep you Surging Forward. As usual I look forward to your comments.

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Episode 71_Gaining Knowledge


In this Episode I was actually on the Road and was able to answer a question that I posted on Facebook. I simply asked what are some of the biggest Hurdles that you feel keep you from succeeding in the Trades or on your job. There was a Large response over many of the groups that I am in. All of which I will address in future episodes. The one that seemed to be the biggest hurdle was how to gain more knowledge so you can grow and become successful.   So this episode which is my first episode recorded while on the road will show you the many ways where you can Gain the knowledge needed to Keep you Surging Forward. As usual I look forward to your comments.

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What Seems like a Negative could Really be a Positive Episode 68


 

You may be wondering about the strange title I chose for this week episode. Why talk about a negative so close to Thanksgiving.Yes it is that time and to be truthful many of you may not think you have much to be thankful about. Lets be real It seems too many other things control our lives including our jobs schedule, our boss, our family, even things we have to get done for a good cause.  Many people put on the face of being thankful but are really hurting and just wish for once that someone would just listen to them. That is the reason for the title. I want to talk how you can take a negative a turn it to a positive.  I  have always tried to be honest when sharing with my students when teaching the Apprenticeship. I don’t sugar coat things and say crazy things like once you get your Journeyman’s card life will be easy. That’s not how it is at all.  Many of you listening know good and well how hard the trades are.  I would like to share with you actually two stories and both are true and both are about things that happened in my life. Before I begin understand that though these stories are true each person listening to this podcast has their  own story whether they are positive or negative depends on the choice that you make not based on what someone , something, or a circumstance does to you as you will see in my two stories. 

 

Every decision we make everyday can make the difference on the outcome of any situation. If you are around negative people start moving away and surround yourself with positive people.     I see a lot of negative at my day job and one day the right door may open bit I have to have the right skills to be ready. Some will say I don’t have many positive people around me, than listen to some podcasts. I listen to many different ones as I am driving that will inspire me to do better at what I do and that is making a difference to those in the trades and other careers. If you have any questions or thoughts feel free to leave a comment or review on Itunes, or the website at www.surging forwardpodcast.com Looking to start you own business we just so happen to have a course for that no matter what state you are in visit www.surgingforward.com  Looking for those CEU’s for your license renewal or looking to get a tradesman listen again check out surging forward.com.

I look forward to hearing from you and as always thank you for your encouragement as we are all on the same journey to Keep Surging Forward Until next week have a great week

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Stay Safe and Keep Surging Forward

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